is it normal to fight every time we talk about future?
we get engaged last year. it was kind of arranged, but not fully — more like family hoped it would work. we both agreed because… well, it made sense. stable. safe. but lately, every time i try to talk about what comes next — like, house, kids, even small stuff — she gets quiet or suddenly angry. i ask what’s wrong and she says i’m pressuring her. but then later she says i don’t care. i don’t know what to do. as for me, i thought marriage would feel… heavier, but in a good way. like a duty you carry together. but now it just feels heavy. we’re polite in front of parents, but once we’re alone, it’s like we’re waiting for the other to make a move. last night we argued about where to spend obon. not even a big thing, really. but it turned into ‘you never listen’ and ‘you always shut down’. i don’t even know what she wants me to say. is this normal? or are we just not… right?