My family kicked me out after finding out I'm gay. What now?

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So I came out to my parents a few weeks ago about seeing someone seriously — it’s this amazing girl named Reese we met in art class and everything just clicked. I was scared but I thought… maybe they’d try. Instead my mom screamed, called it a phase, said I was betraying our faith. My dad didn’t say a word just handed me a trash bag and told me to pack. I’m crashing on a friend’s couch right now but it’s not forever and I don’t even have a job lined up yet. I didn’t think they’d go this far honestly I really didn’t. I keep replaying it in my head like… did I do something wrong by being honest. Reese wants to help but I don’t want to drag her into this mess. I just feel so alone right now and kinda broken. I know I should be proud but right now it’s hard to feel anything but scared. What do you do when the people who are supposed to love you no matter what… don’t. Has anyone else been through this. How’d you keep going

Lucas Müller · Answer

man. i remember sitting on my best friend’s porch with a duffel bag & zero plan after my folks did the same thing. felt like the floor got pulled out. first thing: breathe. you’re not broken, they are for not seeing how fucking cool you are.

i started with the basics — applied for every barista & warehouse gig within 10 miles. got one at a print shop in three days. they didn’t care who i loved as long as i showed up on time. food stamps helped. city had a queer youth shelter too — not just beds, they helped with resumes & even legal name changes.

reach out to the Trevor Project or local LGBTQ center. they helped me find an apartment with other queer folks splitting rent.  you’re not alone in this.

reese sounds awesome. let her in a little if you can — real love means having someone who sees you.  & honestly? my parents came around two years later. not worth waiting for, but it happened.

you got this. one step, then another.

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