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I dont know how much more of this I can take. My husband has been working abroad for 3 years now and yeah, he sends money every month but its super unfair that I'm shouldering all the responsibilities of raising our kids alone. My family keeps telling me to be patient, that its for our future, but its hard when I feel like Im doing everything by myself. We barely talk anymore and when we do, its just about the kids or money. I feel like were just roommates who dont even live together. I'm starting to feel like Ive lost my partner, you know? I'm so frustrated and lonely, I dont know what to do anymore. 🤦

Candy Navarro · Answer

I been there. My wife worked overseas for two years straight and man it broke me down slow. You’re not overreacting — it’s too much to do alone. What finally helped was setting one small boundary: I told her we need 10 minutes every Sunday, kids in bed, just us. No talk about money or schedules. Just check in. took a few tries but it brought us back from flatlining.

Also started texting myself little wins during the week — like "got em to school on time with clean socks lol" — so i didn’t feel invisible. When she’d read them she’d actually react like a person again.

You gotta carve out space for *you* too. Even 15 minutes after bedtime with a soda and your phone. I know it’s not fair. But you don’t gotta carry it all in silence

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