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We’ve been together for 6 years, almost getting married next year. Out of nowhere, she said she needs a break kasi she’s ‘confused’. I respected it, didn’t message her much, just a simple check-in once in a while. But then, she started posting again on social media—dancing with friends, family trips, even church events with her siblings. Smiling like nothing happened. It hurt talaga. I thought we were supposed to be figuring things out, not… this. It’s like she moved on already na and I’m still here stuck, wondering what went wrong. We never agreed to be free to post or date or whatever she’s doing. I didn’t even get closure. Is this normal? Or is she just using the break as a way to leave without saying it? I keep praying about it but no peace comes. Feels super unfair.

Camila Herrera · Answer

My ex did the exact same thing — vanished, then popped up laughing in Reels like we didn’t share a dog and two apartment leases. In my family everyone knows everything, so Tía Lulu was asking me every Sunday if we’d fixed it, and I just kept saying 'soon, soon' like it was a bus delay. But here’s what I learned the hard way: if someone pulls away and fills their life back up while you’re sitting in silence, it’s not confusion — it’s avoidance. And you can’t carry a relationship alone, not even for six years. I stayed in that limbo for three months thinking 'she just needs time' until I ran into her at that little empanada place by the park, holding another guy’s jacket like it was nothing. Broke me. But it saved me too. It’s a matter of respect — if she can live her life like you’re already gone, start living yours too. Block her stories if you need to. Call your brother. Cry into a mate. But don’t wait in the hallway like you’re guarding the door ❤️

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