She said she loved me, then ghosted me?

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We were talking every day, like super close. She told me she loved me out of nowhere one night — I was so happy, very very happy. I even started thinking maybe this is the one, kasi my parents keep asking if I’m serious with anyone. But the next day? Cold. Like zero texts, won’t answer calls, even seen my message and just left me on read. I didn’t say anything weird, I didn’t push for commitment or anything. I just said ‘I love you too’ back, na lang. Now I’m stuck here wondering what I did wrong. Was it too fast? Did I misread everything? I keep checking her social media, she’s fine, just posted a coffee pic yesterday like nothing happened. It’s super confusing. In our family, feelings aren’t said out loud easily — so when someone does, it means something, naman. Now I feel stupid for believing it meant something to her too. How do you move on when you don’t even get an explanation?

Alicia Goh · Answer

happened to me too bro, almost exact same thing. girl said she loved me outta nowhere... i said it back, next day poof. took me a minute to realize it wasn’t about you or what you said. sometimes people say big things when they’re feeling lonely or emotional and then panic after. i drove myself crazy for weeks thinking i messed up — blocked her on everything for 30 days just to stop checking. you need space to reset. what helped me was writing down everything i wanted to say to her (but never sent it). weirdly therapeutic. also... ask mutual friends casually if something happened. sometimes there’s a reason, but usually? it’s about them not you. don’t wait for an explanation that might never come. you’re not behind in life just cause your parents are asking

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