She said she loves me but won’t commit?

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So we’ve been seeing each other for four months, right? Late nights, weekends, even met my sister at that little empanada place in Palermo. She cried when I told her about my dad passing, held my hand… I really thought this was it. Then out of nowhere, she says, “I love you, but I’m not ready for a relationship.” Wait… what? If you love someone, isn’t that the whole point?

I keep thinking maybe it’s me. But she texts me every day, wants to cuddle, says I’m the best thing that’s happened to her. But then she pulls away when I bring up us being official. My mom already asked when she’s coming to Sunday lunch… In my family everyone knows everything, you know? This silence, it’s killing me.

Is she just using me for comfort? Or is this some kind of fear thing? I don’t want to beg for scraps. It’s a matter of respect, really.

I just… I don’t understand how someone can say they love you and still leave you feeling so alone. Like, what are we doing? ...

Cliff Sia · Answer

happened to me with this girl in Buenos Aires two years ago same thing i was head over heels she said i love you but i need space like how does that make sense right

i stayed cause she texted every day made me feel special but it just made it harder to walk away

what helped me was setting a date in my head not telling her just giving myself three weeks to see if anything changed

and you know what i noticed she kept pulling me close then pulling back same pattern every time

so i said okay no more dates unless we talk about what this is
she freaked out said i was pressuring her

i left

it sucked for like two months then i realized she didnt know what she wanted and that’s on her not you

dont waste your heart waiting for someone to catch up

you deserve all of it not just the parts they feel like giving

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