What do I do about bride price delay?

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Imagine my uncle called my mum last week asking if they forgot to collect the bride price… me and Emeka have been married 9 months ooo. We did the church thing, white wedding, even the traditional marriage was done proper in Enugu. But his people still haven’t sent the bride price and now my sisters are whispering, my dad is quiet in family calls and my mum just sighs every time his name come up. She said, ‘they don’t respect us.’

I’ve asked Emeka small-small, no pressure, but he just says ‘my people go do am, no be so?’ Like it’s nothing. But it’s not just the money—wey my people never even stress over. It’s the disrespect. My cousins’ husbands’ families paid within 3 months, some even before the wedding. Now people are starting to talk. I feel small in my own family. I don’t want to fuss and cause issues between us, but I’m tired of defending him when I’m not even sure myself. What kind of message is this sending about me? About our home?

I just… don’t know if I should keep quiet or speak harder. Nothing do you.

Imran Khan · Answer

Honestly, its frustrating when family gets involved like this, basically they dont always get it. I went thru something similar with my family, they werent okay with my choice of partner coz of our different backgrounds. Obviously, its not about the money, its about respect. You should have an open convo with Emeka, tell him how his peoples delay is affecting your relationship with your family. He needs to talk to them, sort this out ASAP. Dont let it drag on, it wont get better on its own.

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