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So my parents found out I’m serious about marrying Rohan and they completely lost it. They did his Kundli and said there’s “too much dosh” and it’ll bring bad luck to the family. Like… seriously? We’ve been together for 4 years and they’ve seen how happy he makes me. But they’re saying if I go through with this they won’t attend the wedding… and my dad even said they’ll treat me like I’m dead.

It’s not like Rohan’s from a bad background or anything. He’s stable works in IT treats me like I matter. But my mom keeps crying saying we’ll have no future no kids maybe even poverty because of the stars… what am I supposed to do?

I love them but I can’t just throw away my happiness for something I don’t even believe in. I’ve tried explaining but they won’t listen. Part of me wants to just elope but then I think… what if I regret cutting them out later?

I keep asking myself am I being selfish or is this really my life…

Not sure I can keep living this half-life anymore

Isabella Rossi · Answer

my cousin went through the same thing with her fiancé — her parents flipped over the kundli match and said it would ruin everyone’s luck. she cried for weeks honestly we both did over sandoz and samosas one night. but here’s what changed: she didn’t shut down she kept inviting her parents to dinners with him even small things like tea at home and slowly they saw how respectful he was how he’d bring her mom homemade ladoos from that one shop she loved. it took months but they started warming up.

don’t cut them off completely maybe postpone the wedding a bit give them space to adjust. and ask rohan to write them a letter — not an argument just something simple saying he loves you and respects them even if they’re not ready to see it yet. my aunt still didn’t come to the wedding but she showed up six months later crying at their doorstep. families are messy they say crazy things when scared but most don’t mean forever.

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