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i’ve been with my partner for 8 years and we’re supposed to be getting married next spring his family is good status my parents kept saying how lucky i am since he is older than me and stable and all that but lately i just feel… gone like i don’t even know what i like anymore what i want i used to paint all the time in college but i haven’t touched a brush in years he said it was messy and i should focus on more practical things now i find myself checking my phone every five minutes to see if he’s texted and if he hasn’t i start panicking is that normal? i don’t want to be this person but i don’t know how to stop i told my mom once and she said i’m overthinking and that marriage will settle me down but what if it just makes me disappear even more 💔

Isabella Rossi · Answer

I was in a similair situation a few years ago, my ex was really controleing & I lost myself completely. I used to love playing music but he'd always complain about the noise so I just stopped. What helped me was starting small, I picked up my guitar again & started playing for like 10 mins a day. It sounds silly but it reminded me of who I was before him. Try doing something you used to love, even if it's just for a few mins a day, see how it makes you feel. I started painting again too, it's messy but it's mine 💪

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