Why am I his project and not his person?
We’ve been together 18 months, and sometimes I wonder if he even sees me or just this… checklist version of us. Every date is scheduled like a work meeting — ‘optimal bonding time’ he calls it, with topics pre-planned. Nope, not joking. Last week he sent me a shared doc summarising our communication gaps and a 30-day improvement plan. A *doc*. I laughed at first… then I just felt empty. My family already gave me enough grief for divorcing young — like I’m damaged goods, can’t just rush into things again, blah blah… so I told myself be patient, give him time. But it’s not about time, is it? He measures everything: screen time, conflict resolution efficiency, even how many times I say ‘I love you’ vs him. I’m tired of feeling like a task he’s trying to close. I want to be something soft to come home to, not another KPI. Is that too much? Or am I just... not cut out for this kind of love? leh