Why does he blame me for things I didn’t do?

Q: how do we adopt when our families won’t support us?

This question has 1 answer from the Doveth community. Read more at https://doveth.com/questions/how-do-we-adopt-when-our-families-wont-support-us-wguhcf

Q: Why keep delaying marriage after 5 years?

This question has 1 answer from the Doveth community. Read more at https://doveth.com/questions/why-keep-delaying-marriage-after-5-years-zryxsz

Q: She says she loves me but wont commit

This question has 1 answer from the Doveth community. Read more at https://doveth.com/questions/she-says-she-loves-me-but-wont-commit-33tkzu

Q: Send money home?

This question has 1 answer from the Doveth community. Read more at https://doveth.com/questions/send-money-home-bb8c82

Q: He’s at war and I’m falling apart

This question has 1 answer from the Doveth community. Read more at https://doveth.com/questions/hes-at-war-and-im-falling-apart-90nxw9

Question

Lately, every time something goes wrong, my boyfriend gets mad at me—even if it's something I clearly didn’t do. Last night, he was upset because his sister didn’t get the cake he asked me to order. But he never told me about it! I said I didn’t know, and he snapped, 'You’re overreacting again.' That’s the third time this week he’s said I’m too sensitive. I didn’t even raise my voice, kasi I’m just trying to explain. But now I feel like I can’t say anything without him turning it around. My mom always says, 'Hindi dapat namomroblema ang lalaki dahil sa babae,' so I keep quiet most of the time. But this... it’s eating me up. I don’t want to be the kind of girl who just takes it, but what if I really am too much? There are moments we’re fine, talaga, but then something small happens and it’s like I’m the enemy. Is this normal? Or am I missing something obvious? Yes po, he said that I make things worse by 'dwelling,' but I just want us to talk without me feeling like I need to apologize for existing.

Liza Garcia · Answer

so i've been in similar situations and honestly it's super frustrating when someone blames you for stuff that's not your fault. what worked for me was setting clear boundaries and not taking the blame. like, you can say 'i didn't know about the cake, you never told me' and just leave it at that. don't feel obligated to explain yourself over and over... it's not your job to fix everything. and when he says you're too sensitive, just tell him how you feel - say 'i'm not being sensitive, i'm just trying to have a conversation'. stand your ground and don't let him turn it around on you

Why does he blame me for things I didn’t do?

Key Takeaways

1 Answer

People Also Ask

Share your experience