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Why hasn't he introduced me to his family after 4 years?

Weve been together four years. Lived together for two. I cook for him, I take care of things when his mother calls crying about the boiler again, I even remember his grandfather's birthday because he forgets. But I havent met them. Not once. Every time we talk about it, he says 'not now, its complicated' or 'they dont understand about us'. In our culture... well, you know how it is. Family is everything. If youre serious, they want to see you. They want to feed you, argue about the weather, make you tea too strong. Its not just formality. Its like... youre being accepted. Or not. Last month his cousin got married and I wasnt invited. He went alone, came back quiet, said 'it was loud, same as always'. I didnt ask. But I felt it. Like I'm some secret. Or temporary. Maybe his parents dont know about me? Maybe they know and dont approve? He wont talk. I dont want to be the one always pushing. But I cant keep living in the hallway of his life. What does this mean? Really.

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My partner did the same thing — two years in, I’d met exactly zero of his people.

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My partner did the same thing — two years in, I’d met exactly zero of his people. I made excuses for him too, until I realized: if someone keeps delaying something this big, there’s usually a reason they’re avoiding it. I finally said, 'I need to meet them by your mom’s birthday — if that doesn’t happen, I’m rethinking us.' Sounds harsh? Maybe. But it forced the issue. Turned out, his mom had strong opinions about who he 'should' be with — and he was scared of conflict. He’d rather hide me than stand up for us. Once I set the boundary, he fumbled through arranging a visit. It was awkward as hell — his mom side-eyed me over rice — but we got through it. Point is: four years is too long to be in the shadows. You’re already doing emotional labor for his family — you deserve to be seen. Pick a date, name it, and tell him it’s not optional. If he still resists? That’s your answer.

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