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i don’t even know why im writing this but im so frustrated. we’ve been engaged for 8 months and every time i imagine my wedding or marriage i think of those wild telenovela moments—dramatic confessions running through airports passionate dancing no hesitation. but my fiancé… he’s sweet but so calm. like i’ll say i miss him and he says 'same, babe' and goes back to his video game.

last week i wore that red dress he said he liked and put on perfume and music trying to create a moment and he just smiled said 'looking good' and asked if i wanted to order pizza. i cried after. not because pizza is bad but because it felt so flat?

i know telenovelas aren't real but i can't stop feeling like something's wrong with me for wanting that fire. my mom says i'm too dreamy and that Manglik dosha stuff means i should just be grateful for stability. tbh i am grateful but also… empty sometimes.

is it stupid to miss a love that doesn't even exist? or am i just with the wrong person

Spencer Grant · Answer

Okay real talk—I used to watch those same telenovelas and dream of being swept off my feet too. I even cried once because my boyfriend didn’t serenade me under a balcony (lol). But here’s what I learned: those scenes are scripted. Fireworks are great but they don’t pay the bills or hold your hair back when you’re sick.

My fiancé was the same—super lowkey said 'hey' instead of 'I adore you' and never planned surprise picnics. So I tried forcing moments too. Put on music lit candles wore my best jeans and he walked in asked if we were ordering tacos. ngl I was ready to break up over it.

But instead I asked him to describe love. He said it’s doing the dishes without being asked. Showing up. Staying. That stuck with me.

Try this: tell him exactly what you need—like 'I really want to feel wanted can you tell me why you love me when we’re hanging out?' or plan a date where you lead. Sometimes calm love just needs a little direction not a overhaul. And honestly that 'same babe' might be his version of poetry idk. Watch how he shows up over time not just in Grand gestures

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