Undefined relationships, mixed signals, and the space between dating and committed
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We’ve been together for 2 years now. Met her at a book store near Tiong Bahru — she’s Chinese, speaks decent Malay, even goes to the mosque with me on Eid. My parents know about her, but every time I...
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My husband and I have been married for six years and honestly things have been ok — work’s been crazy for both of us, we’re both in tech, always on calls or behind screens. But we haven’t been intimat...
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We’ve been married 7 years, & honestly it feels like I’ve been holding this whole thing together. Every night it’s the same thing — he comes home stressed from work, pours out every little problem, an...
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We’ve been together 6 years, married 2. He’s good man — works hard, respects my family, never raises voice. But when he comes home I feel nothing. Not anger, not sadness. Just… empty. Like I’m watchin...
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We were talking every day for like two months. Started on that dating app, then moved to WhatsApp. She’s from Kyiv but living in Warsaw too — we even met for coffee twice, nothing wild just sitting in...
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met this woman at a friend’s vineyard event last month. we talked all night, shared books, that kind of thing. she’s a photographer, lives between here and Lyon. since then, it’s been... a lot of late...
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last week i told him i felt really lonely, like even at home i feel alone... he just said 'you should try joining a club or volunteering. structure helps.' 🤦 it wasn’t the first time. once i cried a....
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So my girlfriend of 18 months gets weird anytime I hang with my crew — especially my close friend Marcus from college. Last weekend I went to a barbecue, nothing wild, and she didn’t say anything that...
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We’ve been married two years now. My parents picked him, and honestly, he’s not bad. Respectful, doesn’t yell, has a good job, never hits or insults me. But every day feels… flat. Like, we eat togethe...
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so last night, we were supposed to go to my sister’s dinner… i wore the dress he said he liked, tried to be in a good mood. then outta nowhere he says i’m ignoring his messages from earlier. i didn’t...
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He’ll say sorry every time—like straight after, proper remorseful tone and everything. Last week it was about forgetting my mum’s birthday dinner (again). He said he felt awful, bought flowers the nex...
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We were talking every day for 3 months, sometimes late into night. She told me she loved me during one call, said I made her feel safe, never felt this way before. Next morning, she stopped replying....
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We’ve been together 2 years already, and still, every time we meet his friends or work people, he introduces me as 'Joanne, a friend'. A *friend*. Last week at his company dinner, his colleague asked...
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So I found out my husband’s been messaging his ex for months. He says it’s just friendship, ‘we talk like friends only’. But why secret? Last time never like this one — I wouldn’t hide anything from h...
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So every time I try to bring up even small things about the future with my boyfriend — like, maybe talking about moving in together someday or what we’d do if one of us got a job overseas — he shuts d...
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My partner’s family has been dropping hints since day one that I should get a job. Not the ‘oh it’s good for you’ kind, more like ‘how come you not working?’ every time we visit. Thing is, I’m already...
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We’ve been together 3 years and he STILL says I’m the love of his life — like, full on tells me I’m his soulmate, we’re meant to be, all that. But every single fight? I’m the one backing down. Last we...
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I met this bloke at a work thing in Bristol—just a casual drinks night, y'know how it gets. We ended up talking for ages, proper conversation, not just weather & small talk. He actually listened. Mont...
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This life sha, being an only son is a big deal in my family and community, everyone's eyes are on me to carry on the family name and provide for my parents, and now that I'm in a serious relationship,...
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We’ve been together two years, living together since last winter. I make more, not bragging but just fact — my job in Xian pays well, his is unstable. His parents visit every month, always same conver...