Trust Issues
Rebuilding trust, dealing with jealousy, and overcoming insecurity
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Why does she treat me like a mate and not a partner?
We've been together 3 years, on and off. She’s always been a bit reserved, but now it’s like… we’re flatmates who catch up for beers. Talks to me like I’m her work mate or something, not someone she’s...
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Not met his family?
Me and my boyfriend, Khalid, been together four years now. His family is pretty traditional, I get that. But still, cannot make it to introduce me to them? Go already four years, and I'm still waiting...
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Why does she cry when I set a boundary?
Every time I say I need space or can’t do something—like last night when I said I didn’t want to go to her sister’s again on Sunday because I had plans with my brother—she starts crying, says I don’t...
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How do I choose between my heart and my family?
So my parents found this girl… family knows family, Delhi girl, same background, all that. They’re already talking engagement and I can tell they’re serious. Honestly, she’s nice — educated, calm, all...
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Family found my texts — now it's a crisis?
So my cousin saw my phone unlocked and screenshot a thread I had with someone I’ve been talking to for weeks. Just casual, flirty messages — nothing physical, nothing promised. But she showed my paren...
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How do I stop feeling like a tour guide in my own life?
Look, last weekend I woke up and thought, let’s drive to the lake. Just pack a bag, throw the dog in the car, go. I was buzzing with it. Called my partner at 9 a.m. — “Hey, wanna get out of town?” He...
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He blames me for stuff I didn’t do?
Lately my boyfriend keeps accusing me of things I never even did. Like last week he said I ignored his calls for hours but I was at work can or not? When I try to explain he says I’m being too sensiti...
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Can we still marry if BTO keeps failing?
We’ve applied for 5 BTOs already… 2 in Punggol, 1 in Tampines, 2 in Choa Chu Kang. All fail. Ballot numbers rubbish every time. My girlfriend is getting really upset — says our timeline is ruined, can...
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Why do I feel lonelier now than when I was single?
I don’t get it. We’ve been married for three years and honestly I felt more connected to people when I was single. I texted friends all the time went out for coffee laughed about dumb stuff. Now I jus...
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Why are we tired of pretending everything's fine?
We go to family events, smile, laugh, take photos. My husband jokes with his brothers, I help serve the food, we look like that couple people point to — the one that’s ‘so sweet’. But drive home, no o...
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Boundary setting
I'm having a tough time with my wife, every time I try to set a boundary she starts crying and I end up apologizing, it's like I'm walking on eggshells around her, I want to give her the freedom she w...
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When they threaten to leave every fight, do they mean it?
Weve been together 5 years, married 2. Every time we argue — even small stuff like me working late or not calling — she says 'I cant do this anymore' or 'maybe we should just split'. Last time, she sa...
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Still Checking?
I don't know why I'm doing this to myself - it's been three months since we broke up and I still find myself scrolling through his social media to see if he's moved on. We were together for two years,...
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How do I say no to my parents' choice?
I’ve been with Ayesha for three years now. We met in London, fell in love slowly, and it just felt right. But last week, my parents brought up this girl from Lahore — family friend’s daughter, same ho...
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Why hasn’t he introduced me to his family after 4 years?
We’ve been together for four years now and I still havent met his parents. Not even once. We talk about marriage sometimes but it feels fake when his whole family could be on another planet for all I...
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Why does she check my phone 'out of love'?
Look, I came home yesterday and caught Lena going through my phone again. I didn’t even say anything at first — just saw her scrolling through my messages with my sister. When I asked what she was doi...
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He’s perfect on paper but why do I feel this way?
We got married last year through arranged setup. My husband... he’s IIT, settled in Canada, kind, never raises voice. Family brags about how I hit jackpot. But inside, I feel... empty. Like something’...
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She cries when I set a boundary—am I the bad guy?
Every time I try to say no to something—like when I wanted to go cycling with my brother on Sunday instead of going to her parents’ house she starts crying uncontrollably and says I don’t care about h...
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How do I leave when the good memories keep pulling me back?
I love him but... every time I pack my bag or tell myself 'this is it,' something pulls me back. Like last night, I found that old Polaroid of us at Iguazú Falls — remember how we got caught in the ra...
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Changed after marriage?
I'm really confused right now, dont know what to do. I got married to this guy 6 months back, we had a love marriage and everything was perfect during our courtship. He is being so caring and understa...